WEDDING CEREMONY - QUESTIONS TO ASK

Whether you have already chosen the date and location for your wedding ceremony or still deciding, there are plenty of questions that you need to ask the person conducting your ceremony including a few about wedding photography. I asked friends, family and my past couples what questions they asked when planning their own wedding ceremonies.  Everyone was very generous in sharing questions and experiences, so much so that I had a tough time narrowing down a top ten. Instead I settled on the top twenty questions to ask whoever is presiding over your service!

1. Can you talk me through what to expect before and during the ceremony?

2. What do we need to provide before the wedding (for example, birth certificate)?

3. Are we required to take any premarital or religious classes prior to the ceremony?

4. How much does the ceremony cost?

5. How long does the service take? The average length of a church wedding ceremony is 45 minutes, however, ceremonies in a registry office can be just 20 minutes long.

6. How many guests can the church/venue accommodate during the service?

7. Where will everyone stand/sit during the ceremony…bridal party, readers, etc?

8. What are the legalities? A friend explained how her ceremony took place in a 700 year old chapel which was bound by ancient rules and customs.  Written permission was required from all members of the choir/organist in order to have a videographer. Fortunately, this didn’t cause a problem. Always check about copyright of any music needed, ask if venues have legal permission and relevant licenses to play the songs that you would like.

9. Can guests park at the ceremony location? “It may sound a bit practical but it’s handy to know about parking as the church we used had people to direct parking and they kept areas clear for us to arrive and leave.”

10. How can we personalise the ceremony? There are often opportunities for you to make your service personal to you from customising your order of service to writing your own wedding vows. Remember to ask for ideas and examples.

11. Is there another ceremony booked immediately before or after ours?

12. For an outdoor ceremony, what is the backup plan in case it rains?

13. Are there musical instruments available for use such as a piano or organ? Are there any bylaws or restrictions on when the church bells can be rung?

14. Can we have a rehearsal and who should attend?

15. Are there any photography or videography restrictions? Do you allow the use of flash photography? Some registrars or vicars object to the use of flash photography and have strict rules about when photos cannot be taken such as during the vows or at the signing of the register. Always check beforehand so that you and others can be prepared.

16. Where and when can photos be taken?

17. What is the cancellation policy?

18. What time before the ceremony can we have access to decorate?

19. Can we take our flowers from the ceremony venue to the reception venue?

20. Are we allowed to throw confetti?

21. And one more for luck and my personal favourite, which came up more than once…can you have tissues at the ready? “We had someone leave a bottle of water and some tissues in the front pew of the bride’s side of the church as bridemaids don’t have pockets or handbags!”

FIFTY WEDDING MOMENTS of 2022

Here we are, fifty of my favourite moments from 2022! Wholesome, heartfelt and personal. These fifty shots are the reason why I don’t interrupt anything about your day. These are why I stay in the wings, observing and waiting for these moments to unfold, which sometimes happen in just a split second. These are the photographs that make you say “Damn girl! I didn’t know you got that!”

For me, these moments are absolute gold and a joy to look back on. Check them out, you will see what I mean!

I often get asked if I take the traditional type group shots. The answer is yes, but they don’t have to be as formal as you think. Check out my blog post showing how Group Shots Don’t Have To Be Boring.

CONFETTI SHOTS THAT ROCK

Confetti shots are awesome. They remain one of the most iconic and requested wedding photographs. I love a confetti shot, especially the ones that are vibrant and full of laughter. Here are my top tips for getting the best wedding confetti photographs.

Plan ahead

To get that perfect confetti shot, it is worth planning ahead and nailing a couple of my top tips. I promise, when you see your confetti photos, they will rock and you will be glad that you did!

CONFETTI SHOT DURING THE DRINKS RECEPTION OUTSIDE OF OLD BROOK BARN IN ESSEX

Bring lots of your own confetti

Go large or go home! Provide the confetti for your guests and tons of it!. Guests rarely bring confetti to weddings any more, so provide plenty and put it in containers that people can easily use. Big baskets will do, so that people can grab large handfuls and there will be less wastage of packaging too. Two handfuls per person is the minimum amount to aim for.

OUTDOOR CONFETTI SHOT AT THE REID ROOMS ESSEX

Talk to your venue to find out their rules

Check with your venue(s) if and where confetti is allowed. Some venues will have restrictions on where confetti can be thrown especially if they are venues accessible to the general public or if they have wildlife on the grounds to protect.

CONFETTI thrown AFTER an elegant OUTDOOR WEDDING CEREMONY IN SANTORINI GREECE

natural dried flower petal confetti outside the wedding celebration tent at jimmy’s farm in suffolk

Plan for indoors and outdoors

Confetti shots don’t have to be outside. Check with your venue. Some are happy to help orchestrate confetti shots indoors before your reception dinner, or allow confetti cannons for your first dance which look pretty awesome by the way. Think creatively of how to make it fun and get others involved.

white heart shaped CONFETTI INDOORS AFTER THE CEREMONY AT PARKLANDS QUENDON HALL ESSEX

gold CONFETTI CANNONS DURING THE FIRST DANCE AT HOUCHINS ESSEX

Throw like you mean it

It’s confetti. What can possibly go wrong?! I always give the guests a few tips on how to throw confetti to get the best effect….including check the wind direction! We want your photos to have the wow factor. It helps massively if people don’t have drinking glasses and handbags on them, or at the very least not in their throwing hand! Basically we are trying to avoid handbags, beer and wine being thrown instead of confetti (trust me, it’s happened). No guest wants to be that person who threw red wine at the bride by accident!

Think about the different styles of confetti

Most venues prefer natural confetti, such as dried rose petals, which are kinder to the environment. We recommend choosing a medium sized biodegradable confetti. Too small and it won’t photograph well. Too big (such as fresh rose petals) and if falls like bricks. We want volume and for it to flutter!

Don’t lose heart if your venue(s) doesn’t permit confetti. There are other creative options. Guests could blow bubbles, throw dried leaves, or wave streamers or pompoms. There is plenty of fun to be had and there is more than one way to do it!

BUBBLES AND CONFETTI AT ST GERMAIN CHURCH NEAR BLAKE HALL ESSEX

Choose your confetti colours wisely

Think about the colour of your confetti. General rule of thumb is choose dark or bright vibrant colours if you are throwing confetti in an area that is light/airy and open. Choose light colours if your background or environment is dark.

real rose petal wedding CONFETTI on the grand staircase at LAYER MARNEY TOWER IN colchester ESSEX

Don’t run. Walk slowly.

Walk slower than normal. You’re not trying to race to the end to get it over and done with. You want to enjoy it, let your guests embrace the moment too, giving your photographer plenty of time to capture the actions and expressions.

colourful Wedding Confetti Photographed after the outdoor ceremony at North Hill Farm in hertfordshire

Smile and keep your head up

The temptation is to lower your head when confetti is being launched. It’s a perfectly natural defensive reaction. We want you to do the complete opposite. Keep your head up, belly laugh until your stomach hurts, and most of all, enjoy the moment!

CONFETTI OUTSIDE OF CLISSOLD HOUSE IN STOKE NEWINGTON LONDON

LARGE GROUP SHOT INCORPORATING CONFETTI IN THE GARDENS AT MOOR HALL IN ESSEX

So if you are looking for a wedding photographer who can creatively organise and capture confetti photos, then get in touch to tell me more about your wedding plans.

POSTPONING A WEDDING: JESSICA & PETER SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCE

I had no immediate plans to talk about Coronavirus Covid-19 on here, because frankly, I can’t imagine that I want to be reminded of this unsettling time when I am scrolling through my website reviewing the past year. Rather unexpectedly, I had a change of heart. The last seven weeks have bought a strange blend of realism and optimism with a heavy splash of confusion thrown in for good measure.

I could never have foreseen just how 2020 was going to play out. The year started with the painful loss of my Dad. Just as I started to breath a little easier, visualising a different family norm, Covid-19 came and wiped out the plans that I had thoughtfully curated for the year in a bid to bring some positively and security into our household.

It’s been a whirlwind but strangely also feels like the longest 7 weeks of our lives! I refuse to use the term “new normal” as it suggests our current status is permanent and I remain hopeful that this is not the end of life as we know it. Life adjustment, yes. New normal, no.

The event and wedding industries, like many others, have been hit hard. For so many couples, who were due to get married during this pandemic, they are having to postpone or cancel their weddings. I completely understand that whilst we are in the same storm, we are not in the same boat. Every persons situation, priorities and concerns are different. I am invested in every single one of my couples and I endeavour to be as supportive as I can. As it stands, working closely with my couples, I have rescheduled 23 weddings so far!

What I really came here to talk about wasn’t my experiences, but actually provide some insight into how one of my couples have coped with postponing their wedding. Let me hand over to Jessica and Peter to share their experience of postponing their wedding. Their honest words are both inspiring and reassuring.

Big cheery hello to Jessica and Peter

1. TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOUR SITUATION

We had our wedding booked for April 18th, it was a short engagement as we've already been together for 5 years and neither of us wanted to wait any longer to get married! We planned a town hall wedding close to where we spent a lot of our early dates in Islington, with about 80 guests invited. Planning had mostly been stress free and we had everything sorted within about 6 weeks.

2. WHEN DID YOU FIRST START TO THINK THAT YOU MAY POSTPONE?

Probably around late February, but we were still naïvely hopeful that all of this would blow over by April. It wasn't until mid March, with only 4 weeks until the big day, that we informed all of our guests that we were postponing.

3. WHAT MADE THE DECISION CERTAIN FOR YOU IN THE END?

Aside from confirmation from the Town Hall that they would be closed until at least the end of May, we thought about how it was not worth risking anyone's health for our wedding. It's really important to both of us to have our grandparents there, and they would not be able to attend with any social distancing in place.

4. WHO DID YOU CONTACT FIRST TO TALK THROUGH POSTPONING YOUR WEDDING?

We sent emails to all our suppliers on the same day, the key ones being the town hall, reception venue and of course our photographer! We also contacted our wedding insurance to discuss what needed to be done and what conditions had to be met.

5. HOW DID YOUR SUPPLIERS REACT?

I think we've been exceptionally lucky, we had lovely responses from our suppliers and their flexibility and understanding has really taken a weight off our shoulders.

6. WHAT WAS THE REACTION FROM YOUR GUESTS?

We have had really kind responses from our guests, pretty much all of them had already guessed that we would have to postpone, and both of our families have been supportive of our decision. 

7. AS A COUPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THERE, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE OTHER COUPLES THINKING OF POSTPONING THEIR WEDDING?

Don't be afraid to reach out to friends and family to support you, and make plans to do something fun together on the date that you originally planned to get married. We got dressed up and had a stay-at-home dinner date.

8. HAVE YOU SET ANOTHER DATE?

We have a date set for June 2021.

9. HOW DO YOU FEEL NOW THAT YOU HAVE POSTPONED?

Now that the original date has come and gone we're feeling a bit more relaxed and pragmatic about it. We would rather be staying safe and healthy. We were both fine on the day itself, which came as a surprise to both of us. We're pleased we didn't feel sad all day or spend it crying. We already have our outfits ready, now it's just a matter of staying safe (and in shape!) until the new big day!

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Wedding planning: Check out my top tips on how to get the best confetti photographs!

POSTPONING A WEDDING: LIZ & LUKE SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCE

The topic of wedding postponement remains high on the agenda at the moment. The majority of my scheduled weddings for 2020 have been forced or have made the choice to postpone to late 2020 or 2021. The decision for many was complex and not easy.

There is currently no certainty on when weddings will be permitted in the UK. However, when the government does announce the guidelines specifically on weddings, myself and others across the wedding industry are preparing for the real likelihood that weddings will slowly return but with restrictions in place on both ceremonies and receptions. This is likely to include restrictions on guest numbers, social distancing measures and even the possibility of the need for wearing masks. For now, we can only wait.

In May, Jessica and Pete kindly shared their experience of rescheduling their wedding to 2021 which was originally due to take place in mid-April. Today Liz and Luke are sharing their experiences too and I extend a great thanks for taking the time to help other couples who are also grappling with wedding postponements at the moment.

Big cheery hello to Liz and Luke

1. TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOUR SITUATION

Planning for 6 months, we had a pretty short turnaround between engagement (Sept 2019) and the wedding (planned for 1st May). Roughly 100 people all at one venue.

2. WHEN DID YOU FIRST START TO THINK THAT YOU MAY POSTPONE?

Initially we were keen to have it regardless. We underestimated the severity of the situation. When the decision was made to limit numbers at social gatherings it became clear that it was going to be taken out of our hands. Our Hen and Stag dos were cancelled pretty much within the same couple of days. 

3. WHAT MADE THE DECISION CERTAIN FOR YOU IN THE END?

We felt there would have been worry in the air for everyone there and we would have hated for our wedding to be the cause of any of our loved ones getting ill. 

4. WHO DID YOU CONTACT FIRST TO TALK THROUGH POSTPONING YOUR WEDDING?

We contacted our venue about a week before the decision was made to postpone in mid March. At that time they assured us things were not likely to be moved/cancelled! 

5. HOW DID YOUR SUPPLIERS REACT?

All the suppliers were excellent, very understanding and we've been able to have everyone originally booked for our new wedding date.

6. WHAT WAS THE REACTION FROM YOUR GUESTS?

Similar to the suppliers, very positive and we think a lot of people recognised it was inevitable. One of the best things to come out of the postponement was that Luke's sister (and one of the bridesmaids) arranged for our guests to send video messages which she collated into one video. We were able to watch this on the day our wedding was due and it was incredible - such happy messages to receive which made us feel excited for the new date rather than sad we weren't getting married.

7. AS A COUPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THERE, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE OTHER COUPLES THINKING OF POSTPONING THEIR WEDDING?

Try and focus on how short a few month's delay it is in the context of spending the rest of your lives together. 

8. HAVE YOU SET ANOTHER DATE?

Yes later in the year (Dec 2020)

9. HOW DO YOU FEEL NOW THAT YOU HAVE POSTPONED?

The season of our wedding has changed a lot but we've been so lucky in that nearly everything we had planned will still be relevant for December. We are, like everyone, excited for lockdown to be over and for some semblance of normality to resume. We know that there are people who have been affected a lot more by Coronavirus than we have and we are just feeling grateful that we will still be able to get married.

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Get inspired. Check out Ruth and Juan’s outdoor wedding.

See more wedding inspiration on my Instagram feed and feel free to pin your favourites on to your Pinterest Board. If you are looking for a wedding photographer who is more about capturing your day in a natural, fun and unobtrusive way, then you are in the right place. Get in touch and tell me about your plans.

MOOR HALL WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER

The sun was out and everyone was smiling for Moor Hall's Wedding Open Day last weekend. This was an extra special occasion as it was the venue's very first open day attended by Moor Hall's recommended suppliers, including myself. A very talented, skillful and cheery bunch, working alongside the Moor Hall team, we came together to give all the visitors a friendly welcome.

I don't usually take any cameras along to wedding fayres or open days, but in the spur of the moment as I was skipping out the door I decided to grab a camera that was all charged and ready to go.  Well, I am really glad that I did. The venue looked absolutely stunning and the new outdoor ceremony area is incredible. An eye catching addition to this already beautifully landscaped Essex wedding venue. I am very proud to be a recommended wedding photographer at Moor Hall and thank Jodie and the team for welcoming me on board.

That's enough chatter from me, look at the photos below yourself showcasing Moor Hall Wedding Venue and the wonderful work of all the recommended suppliers involved.

Awesome Suppliers
Venue - Moor Hall Essex
Venue decor - Wedding Styling & Hire by Love Lavish
Catering - Relish
Letter lights, flower wall and table plans - Little Big Things
Florist - Daisy May's Flowers
Wedding stationery designer - Design Hub
Cake - Occasions Cake Studio
Hair stylist - Hair by Sarah Wade
DJ & entertainment services - Funkbox Productions
Pianist - Zoe Alexandria

GROUP SHOTS DON'T HAVE TO BE BORING

Sometimes group shots are formal. Sometimes they are not. The choice is completely yours. If you want group shots of your family and friends for the mantelpiece, then we can make it happen.

The most important thing is to make sure you have built time into your wedding day so that we have sufficient time to do your group shots. If you are not sure how much time to leave, please ask me before you pin down exact timings with your venue. I will happily give you a bit of guidance.

So if you are thinking about whether or not to include group shots in your wedding day, here is a bit of inspiration.

WEDDING ALBUMS - BEAUTIFUL, CREATIVE AND MODERN ALBUMS

I love to see couples ordering wedding albums from me, as it still remains my favourite way of showcasing photographs.  I enjoy designing albums that are unique to every couple. I work with two professional album makers who only work with professional photographers. You won't find their albums on any high street.   This blog post is about one of the album choices that I offer - digital albums.

Digital album

My most popular album is a digital album, also sometimes known as a layflat or storybook album. These albums are made in the UK. All albums have a leather or leatherette cover, the pages are thick and lay flat enabling images to be printed across the spine from one edge of the page to the other so no image is obscured.

12x12 Green leather cover with names and date debossed

Professionally printed album with thick pages

Album pages lay flat enabling images to be printed unbroken across the spine

Album design

All albums are packaged in a presentation box and delivered direct to your home.  There are a few choices for you to make at the start of the process:

• First choose your album size, either square 12x12 or landscape 12x16.
• Choose the colour of your cover.
• Decide on the style of cover you would like. Choose from 4 different options - Plain with your names embossed, photo cover, a metallic cover or acrylic glass front cover.
• Choose matt, gloss or metallic printed paper
• Choose between 60-100 images from your gallery for your album design. 

From here I will be able to design your album layout and send you a draft to approve, before sending the design to print. Orders generally take 4-5 to arrive from the date of ordering.

Duplicate 6x6 parent albums can be ordered at the same time as your main album. which make perfect gifts for family members.

12x12 Black leather cover album with photo and METALLIC cover

10x14 Navy Leather album with names debossed on the cover

Album pages lay flat enabling images to be printed unbroken across the spine

QUEENSBERRY WEDDING ALBUMS - LUXURY HANDMADE ALBUMS

I waved goodbye to another beautiful Queensberry album this week as it was delivered to a client just in time for Christmas. It’s the wedding album of Kathleen and Martin who got married at the Prince Regent Hotel during the summer. Photographed and handmade with love and care. Queensberry are renowned for being the best album maker in the world. Made in New Zealand, they are luxurious both in look and feel. 

Queensberry albums all arrive in a presentation box

Albums are protected inside a velvet bag.

Queensberry offer a vast choice of album sizes, layouts and covers including luxurious leathers, linen and silks.

Martin and Kathleen chose a 12×12 Classic Matted album with a plum leather cover, mixing a selection of colour and black white images throughout. I love seeing my work in print. Whilst it is fine to have digital copies of images, it is no substitute for the love and care that goes into making an album, from the emotion that comes as pages are turned and fond memories evoked. Handing over a handmade album always puts a smile on my face.